In January 2007 we found out we would be welcoming a baby boy! He was born a month and a half after we'd found out. We had one face-to-face meeting with his birth mother before he was born. In the meantime we had exchanged emails on a regular basis. When we first met her she wanted to have a more closed adoption. She felt that would help her move on a little better. Of course would respect whatever her wishes were.
The wait wasn't quite as smooth sailing as it was for Stella. We were nervous about a couple of things, but thankfully our prayers were answered. We were honored to be in the delivery room when Tristan was born! He was healthy and beautiful! The next 24hours were the longest of my life. His birth mother was having second thoughts, and we had already begun to bond with Tristan. We had held him, gave him his first bottle, and loved him before he was born. Of course we could understand her having second thoughts! She had carried him and loved him for 9 months! But as an adoptive couple there is nothing scarier and more nerve wracking than those hours until the papers are signed.
The day after he was born our worker called and asked if we could meet her ASAP at the hospital. We left immediately. Tristan's birth mother had signed her papers just before we signed ours. We spent a few moments together one more time before she handed her to me. All of those emotions I had for Dellany almost three years before, I had once again for this amazing woman. I was glad this time I knew a little more what to expect. It certainly doesn't get any easier though! We took a few pictures then each went on our way.
Our families came over that night to meet our new little addition. Everyone was thrilled to have Tristan in our family after an emotional couple of months. We kept in close contact through email with Tristan's birth mother after that. She has expressed several times since placement how thankful she is to us for being ready for Tristan and how grateful she is for how everything had turned out.
About 6 months after Tristan was born we met with both of Tristan's birth parents for lunch. This was the first time we had seen his birth mom since placement, so we were excited to see her again. And this would be our first time meeting Tristan's birth dad. Tristan looked exactly like his birth dad, only a lighter version of him. We had a great time and have gotten together several times since. We see them about twice a year. They came to Tristan's blessing and we get together every year for Tristan's birthday. It's always a joyous occasion for us! His birth mom expressed that she would like to have our adoption be a little more open than we had discussed at our initial meeting. That was what we had always known and were comfortable with. We agreed and have loved getting to know both of Tristan's birth parents!
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